How to Start Healing Your Bloodline

(For the ones who know it didn’t start with them... but want it to end with them, here’s a read for you.)

Alright. If you’re reading this, you probably already feel it. Like you were born into a family where no one really talked about anything, at least not truthfully. But you still felt the weight of it. The tension, the patterns, the unspoken pain.

When I say “stuff no one talked about,” I mean a lot of us come from families where nobody really learned to speak from a grounded, emotionally healthy place. Real adult conversations were rare and if they did happen, they were probably reactive or shut down fast.

For example, I remember feeling weird my whole life. Like something was wrong with me. But really, I just never had a safe place to ground my empathic energy or understand the gifts that came through strong. Not all of us see ghosts or have visions, sometimes the gift starts with just feeling like you’re carrying too much and not knowing why.

If that sounds familiar… you’re probably the one who’s meant to break the cycle.

Here’s how I’ve been doing it. No one handed me a guide, so I made one over the years. This is me trying to give you a starting point.

1. Name the Patterns

This part is uncomfortable.... but necessary.

You have to get real about what keeps showing up in your family, even if the faces change.

Ask yourself:

• What pain seems to repeat?

• What does no one talk about but everyone seems to carry?

• What behaviors do I catch myself doing that feel… inherited?

It could be:

• Addiction

• Emotional shutdown

• Abandonment

• Control

• Martyrdom

• Guilt around money or power

• Rage

• Chronic illness

• Always feeling unsafe

Look at both sides maternal and paternal. This isn’t about blame. It’s simply about awareness.

“Okay, I see what I inherited. And I don’t want to pass it on.” 💜

2. Accept That You Were Born for This

Ever feel like the black sheep? The one who asked too many questions, felt too much, or didn’t fit into the mold? That’s not random, I swear to you. I lived many years being a skeptic myself.

You’re probably here to shift things. Maybe the first in your line to even try. And that’s okay.

Even if you don’t feel gifted, I promise, the more you work through your shadow, the more your true gifts will start revealing themselves. It’s not always flashy. It might just be the way you feel things. The way your gut knows when someone’s energy is off. The way you see through people.

Don’t let others discourage you.I don’t care how many generations of witches are in their family, how long they’ve been studying, if someone makes you feel small or “less than,” that feeling is your intuition saying: yeah, I’ve had enough of this nonsense.

Stop waiting for your family to “get it.” Grieve if you need to, I know I had to, multiple times. But don’t let that keep you from accepting your role.

Because once you do… it starts turning into something beautiful.(Not instantly. If you’re here for instant gratification, you might want to turn around now.) But if you're here to heal start by being patient with yourself. And do it with humility.

3. Let Yourself Grieve

You’ve got to feel it. Grief may hit you out of nowhere, that’s totally okay and normal.

Cry for the stuff they never processed. Rage for the times they stayed silent. Mourn for the childhood you didn’t get to have.

You’re not too sensitive , you never really have been you’re feeling what they couldn’t feel. You’re finally letting the throat chakra open. Cry. Grieve. Get it out.

Do what helps:

• Write letters and burn them

• Scream in your car

• Take a long shower and cry

• Punch a pillow

• Make a ritual and release it

That’s how it stops living in your body.

4. Rewire the BS

This takes time. But it’s where you start taking your power back.

Catch the voice in your head when it says:

• “No one’s gonna help me.”

• “I always mess things up.”

• “I have to be strong for everyone.”

• “I’m too much.”

Pause. Ask: Whose voice is that?Do you even want to carry that belief anymore?

Say to yourself:

“That was their truth. It’s not mine.”

Then live that new truth:

• Rest where they couldn’t

• Say no where they didn’t

• Speak up where they were silent

• Eat the good food

• Take the deep breath

• Choose peace

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5. Connect With the Ancestors Who Get It

You don’t have to work with every ancestor, some were too hurt to help. But some see you now. Some are cheering you on.

Create a small altar or space, even just a glass of water with intention. Or a jar you throw all your found coins and nick nakcs in.

Talk to them. Ask for signs. Say:

“I’m doing what you couldn’t. Walk with me.”

Even if it feels silly, they’re listening. I promise. Anytime I remember i ask for love, guidance, protection and insight. That alone has helped me so much.

6. Break the Energy

Sometimes it’s not enough to talk about it, you’ve gotta move it.

Try this ritual:

• Write a list of everything you want to release from your bloodline: guilt, fear, silence, shame

• Light a candle

• Say out loud:

“This ends with me. What was carried in silence will now be voiced. What was endured in pain will now be healed in love.”

• Burn the paper (safely, please for the love of whatever you believe in)

• Offer herbs like hyssop, angelica root, black salt, whatever you feel drawn to; if you want those herbs specifically text me for a spell kit box handmade for you, or order them in the herb bundle in the shop.

• Thank your line for what they survived. Then let them know: we’re doing it different now.

If you want a custom version of this, I’ll help you make one.

7. Be the Example

You don’t need kids to pass healing on.

Your friends. Your clients. Strangers online. They’ll feel it.You’re already teaching, just by living differently.

You’re becoming the version you always needed.You’re becoming a better ancestor.

Why Does This Stuff Keep Repeating?

Because pain echoes until someone listens, yikes right.Trauma doesn’t just die unfortunately, it waits for someone brave enough to face it. If you’re reading this… it’s probably you. One day you'll see you aren't cursed, your the lucky one to follow this through.

Need Help With This?

I can help you:

• Figure out which pattern you’re here to break

• Make a ritual that speaks to your story

• Channel a message from your healed ancestors

Just let me know what you need most. I’ll walk with you through it.